Grieving Creatively

Loss takes us beyond words, so we go beyond words to heal.

​A father grieves through his artwork

Dads grieve, too. I'm always eager to honor other people's loved ones, their grief journey, and especially their grief art. But when Leif reached out to show me some of his own “grief art,” I was so touched! Leif’s story is beautiful and unique, most especially because he is a man and a...

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Sympathy cards: 14 ideas for what (not) to say

So a co-worker, friend, or far away family member just experienced a loss. You know you want to send a card, but what do you say? Avoid these mistakes and get to know some actually helpful things you can write. A lot of things people say (or write in cards) are super awkward, and frankly, not...

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How to: hold a creative VIRTUAL "memorial service"

The COVID-19 Pandemic has impacted the world in so many ways, most tragically by its rising death toll. The restrictions of quarantine and stay-at-home orders make it impossible for families to hold traditional funerals and memorial services - at least for the time being. But grief and mourning...

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(Re)Discovering identity after loss

Let me just take a minute to say: I’m so very sorry for the loss that brought you here. You’ve likely been through a lot of emotional pain and adjustment since your loss. But I’ll bet you’ve also learned a lot and grown a ton as well. Processing your grief and doing the "work" of mourning has...

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Growing Pains: The ups and downs of grief

Do either of these sound like you? I'm feeling quite lonely. My loss has greatly impacted my social life. What I need most right now is a listening ear, someone who doesn't mind keeping me company, and/or people who share my interests. OR I'm feeling a bit direction-less. Loss changed the way...

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When you're on "Survival Mode"

Survival Mode (AKA “Grief Artist in Disguise”) Does this sound like you? "I'm really just trying to survive! I'm limited in my energy, time, and financial resources. My grief is too overwhelming to face right now. What I need most is resources, and compassionate people willing to help me...

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Holiday Grief: Creative Coping

The holidays are just plain difficult when you've lost a loved one. I think that’s because of all those lovely, long-standing traditions we used to look forward to. Those same rituals of joy and togetherness only serve to emphasize the person who's not there this year. And the anxiety and dread...

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Facing the Holidays When it Hurts

The holidays are just plain difficult when you've lost a loved one. Long-held traditions only serve to emphasize the person who's not there this year. Let's talk about the way the holidays impact us when we're grieving, and what we can do to face this season with greater victory. Sometimes,...

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Help! Grief feels so big!

Art can help you figure out how to start. Have you ever heard the term “grief work”? Author and Psychiatrist Erich Lindemann coined the term way back in the 1940s (learn more here). Approaching our grief as "work" can help us begin to understand what's ahead on our journey - and figure out the...

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How to help a friend who's grieving

This is a guest post by Margo Fowkes, founder of Salt Water, an online community and resource hub for those grieving the loss of a loved one. In addition to providing resources for those who’ve experienced loss, Margo is also passionate about helping the friends and family of those who are...

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